Why men date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on ever since old ages. Extramarital affairs can be loaded with problems, cause misery, and other problems. Plus you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness issue, funds, age dissimilarity, religious background, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman date.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affair. I am sure mainly though it is only the human condition, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can switch the longing on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against married dating. For many people the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your spouse or anybody else? You would need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major grouping, gigantic actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they feel comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An affair sometimes solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage whole.
Neglect, sadly this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, usually the husband is sexually neglecting his spouse for a large humber of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “hot wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be compassion is not here, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have just developed separately, our common interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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